It’s Monday afternoon and your child comes home from school with a behavior chart full of stars and a folder full of completed school work. You breathe a sigh of relief and happily think that you can look forward to a good week at school. On Tuesday anticipating the best you enthusiastically ask to see your child’s behavior chart and completed work folder. As he or she reluctantly pulls the items out of the backpack your heart begins to sink. You look and see that the completed work folder is practically empty, and the behavior chart contains only the smallest smattering of stars. You ask you child what happened that made today so much worse than yesterday, but he or she doesn’t have an answer. Your child just shrugs his or her shoulders and walks away.
Dealing with the ups and downs of ADHD is frustrating for parents, teachers, and kids. When kids with ADHD have good days sometimes it’s easy to think they could have good days all the time if they would just try harder. However, there are many factors that go into making any day a “good day” for kids with ADHD, and only one of these factors is how much effort a child puts into staying focused and in control of his or her impulsive behavior. As a result, a child can feel like he or she is trying as hard as he or she can to pay attention, or complete work quickly and carefully, and still not be able to meet the standards that teachers and parents have set for him or her.
If you have a child with ADHD whose focus, organizational skills, work completion, and/or impulsive behavior varies greatly from day to day or activity to activity, it can be helpful to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Shift your own focus away from thinking about your child’s intentions or effort and instead think about other factors that may consistently interference with your child’s ability to pay attention and get things done. If you focus on changing these factors, you’ll be setting your child up for success and soon they’ll be having more good days than bad.
There are many factors that impact a child’s ADHD symptoms. Here are a few to get you started:
The daily ups and downs of ADHD can be frustrating, but there are things you can do to support your child. Sometimes a few relatively minor changes can make a big difference and go a long way in helping your child have more good days at school and at home.
Mary Rooney, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of California San Francisco. Dr Rooney is a researcher and clinician specializing in the evaluation and treatment of ADHD and co-occurring behavioral, anxiety, and mood disorders. A strong advocate for those with attention and behavior problems, Dr. Rooney is committed to developing and providing comprehensive, cutting edge treatments tailored to meet the unique needs of each child and adolescent. Dr. Rooney's clinical interventions and research avenues emphasize working closely with parents and teachers to create supportive, structured home and school environments that enable children and adolescents to reach their full potential. In addition, Dr. Rooney serves as a consultant and ADHD expert to Huntington Learning Centers.
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